Him

Your breath on my nape.

It’s the sound of the sweetest escape.

I’ve found the one I’ve been looking for.

He’s been here all along.

The real him.

Soft,

Compassionate,

Selfless.

I love me some him.

We both made a promise,

Our souls will win.

Together forever.

Your eyes take me away.

We escape to our world.

I relish in our moments.

The days are long,

Night is even shorter.

Come home to me.

Mine.

Be polite.

This world needs a better filter. As a woman that is eight months pregnant you would not believe the things that I hear from people that I barely even know.

You got bigger!

Are you sure you’re not having twins?

You didn’t have the baby yet?

These are not the things that a pregnant woman constantly wants to hear. Her body changes daily to meet the needs of her child, not for the mockery of gawkers! If you’re unsure what to say to an expecting woman that is clearly growing and changing try these simple statements that most individuals want to hear anyway:

You are glowing.

Your skin is radiant.

Your baby is going to be so healthy.

When in doubt, silence works wonders.

-Jay

What’s in the bag?

As moms across the world near their delivery date, they are bombarded with things to do: set-up the nursery, make delivery plans, and endless doctors appointments. Somewhere on their lists is usually packing a hospital bag. Many people think that it is a necessity to have the hospital bag packed so that you are ready to go at a moment’s notice. I’m here to tell you that this is junk.

Before you get offended, let me explain my logic. With my first pregnancy I did so much research, planning, and worrying. I brought and tried to do everything the “experts” recommended. I put the most recommended baby products on my registry, had a variety of pregnancy apps on my phone, and did tons of reading. By the time I reached the hospital all of that went out of the window!

There’s so many suggestions on what you should take with you to the hospital, but none of the lists I’ve seen are actually realistic. Multiple outfits for you and baby, a robe, diapers? This is all fluff (unless the hospital you’re going to is the worst of the worse). I’ve been to two different hospitals inside and outside of the city and they both took excellent care of me and my babies. Honestly, the only things that I actually remember absolutely needing that they couldn’t provide me with was my phone charger, a hoagie, and my glasses. That it. Call me crazy, but my hospital bags have usually gone untouched.

With that said, here’s some advice on what to take when it’s time to head to the hospital.

  1. Make sure the infant car seat is properly installed in your car. You won’t be able to leave the hospital without it and they will check to make sure it’s secure.
  2. Prepare for your feedings. After I deliver, I’m ready to indulge in all the foods I avoided (hoagie is my go to). This could also include feedings for your baby: breastfeeding or the hospital providing you with what you need.
  3. Ensure you have a charger to take pictures and check in with loved ones. Your phone isn’t critical, but when the urge arises you’ll want it available for use.
  4. The outfit you arrive in is the one you leave in (usually) so make sure it’s a good one. Sometimes there are showers available, but you’ll want to run home with your baby so fast it’ll be the last thing on your mind (maybe for the next few months too).
  5. Glasses (no contacts), spot for your jewelry, and insurance card.

That’s it! Live in the moment and enjoy your new bundle of joy.

-Jay 💜

It’s a wrap

I have an exciting announcement to make. I hope it’s not too hasty, but I just want to share it with the world now(ohhh, well).

It’s been a week…Okay, more like a work week, but technically a week nonetheless.

My son has been going potty….

My son has been dry…

My son has pooped on the potty…

He even wears underwear!

I am literally gushing right now.

Here’s the run down:

My son has had a potty since his first birthday. From the time that he got his potty we talked about how he should use it to do his “business”. At first, he was an instant fan and I was all for it too. Unfortunately his day care was unable to have a potty in the one year old classroom that he was in so our efforts became counterproductive. I was sad to let his interest go, but there was nothing I could do.

Fast forward to a few months after I found out that I was pregnant. The thought of continuing to purchase diapers for my son and a new baby was terrifying. You would think it would be cost effective buying toddler sized diapers, but it’s still very expensive. By the time your child is wearing a size 5 or 6 the boxes of diapers get smaller and it seems as if they hold less too. Of course there’s the fact that a newborn would go through diapers left and right. The way I calculated it, I would spend about $30 every two weeks for my son and it would probably be double that for a newborn. So, $180 a month for diapers?? Let’s not even talk about wipes and creams

I just wasn’t for it. So I decided to have a talk with my son. We discussed the new baby coming and revisited using the potty. Thank goodness he also transitioned to the two year old class at his school and they are more focused on potty training since they have a bathroom “in their room”. I then decided that the best time to start this process would be over winter break. I knew it would be frustrating for both of us, but the best decision in the long run.

So our plan was set, as soon as we got home on Friday to commence our break we would get right to work.

Night 1: We went cold turkey. I couldn’t keep an accurate record of all the accidents he had even if I wanted to: wet spots on the couch, the floor, even Daddy got a little wet. We were all exhausted by bedtime. He went to sleep with a pull-up to avoid further havoc.

Day 1/ Night 2: A little less optimism about the day, but still hopeful. Back to underwear, but then we ran out (you need way more than 6 pairs to begin this process)…commando it is then. 3 accidents, but atleast we peed and pooped on the potty. At nap time (around 1pm) we went potty and put on a pull-up. When he got up from his nap we went straight to the potty. Afternoon/ evening: no accidents (word). Same pair of underwear until bed, a pull-up just to be safe.

Day 2: Wake up, potty. After we play, potty. Drink some juice, potty. Potty, potty, potty. We’re supposed to have family dinner, I’m nervous about leaving the house. We’re still going to continue with our same tactics, home or not.

Night 3:Somebody was frustrated because he was interrupted from playing with his cousins to use the potty, but we were able to poop on the toilet after dinner! Everybody gave him a cheer and loads of candy (very motivational). A few hours later, we pottied before we left and make a stop to pick up Nana before getting home. We got home and potty, then put on a pull-up before bed- our new routine.

Day 3/ Night 4: So glad we didn’t have any accidents yesterday, even when we weren’t in the house! As long as we can keep up this momentum everybody is good. Hopefully our Christmas celebrations won’t be too distracting from our process.

Day 4:We are on a roll baby! I’m so happy that that we’ve been accident free for the past few days. Trying to space out the intervals between our potty times has been difficult, but I want him to eventually be able to initiate this process on his own. Our schedule has been about every hour to two hours or right after large drinks.

Night 5: An appropriate time to cut off liquids? Around 6pm, maybe? He hasn’t wet himself overnight so we may not need to do pull-ups at night.

Day 5: It truly seems like we’ve been at this for awhile now, but it’s only really been a short amount of time (jeez). An accident did happen…too busy guzzling water and playing on his tablet to make it to the potty.

Potty training is a process that doesn’t happen overnight. I’m glad we had sometime at home to initiate this process and I hope that we can easily transfer this experience over to day care (let’s keep our fingers crossed). I know many people have interesting stories about their experience, please feel free to share them in the comments.

Let’s wrap this up!

-Jay

Sunday Dinner 12/17

Here’s a quick recipe for dinner that I whipped up on my IG story. Follow my page to stay up to date with new posts!

Shopping List:

  • Chicken breasts
  • Shrimp
  • Pasta
  • Veggies (your choice)
  • Oil
  • Paprika
  • Salt
  • Pepper
  • Butter
  • Minced garlic
  1. In a nonstick pan heat up a tablespoon of oil to medium/high heat. In a medium pot boil water with a pinch of salt and a teaspoon of oil.

2. While oil is heating, clean and season your chicken generously on both sides. I suggested a few seasoning above, it’s up to you.

3. Throw in minced garlic when the oil is warmed and quickly add your chicken so that the garlic does not burn.

4. Cook the chicken evenly on both sides (about 5-7mins depending on the cut). While the chicken cooks the water in your pot should boil and you can throw in about 2 cups of pasta.

5. When the pasta has fully cooked, put it in a bowl to toss it with butter and garlic. Depending on your veggies cook them once your pasta is al dente.

6. Remove the chicken from the pan and throw in your shrimp with butter and MORE garlic. I used cooked shrimp so it was heated in the blink of an eye.

7. You can toss together all your cooked food or serve them together on one plate.

8. Enjoy!

Baby Prep

Clearly this isn’t my first time on the “baby train”. With an 8 year old and 2 year old, I’ve been a frequent passenger. As I get closer to my due date in March, I want to plan and prepare for this baby like no other. I know that my other kids will be understanding when the new baby comes, but there will still need to be a lot of adjustments that need to be made so the transition isn’t too rough.

For starters, the first couple months are usually the roughest. I always tell myself to sleep when the baby sleeps and that almost never happens. To prepare for this mentally, I’m already practicing staying up late and operating on a few hours of sleep. Okay this “practicing” hasn’t actually been intentional, but the way my back feels on top of y mind racing, I don’t have much of a choice.

I’ve been proactively preparing freezer meals that I can thaw and serve for dinner. I’m not concerned about breakfast because my family can eat cereal like it’s nothing and everyone’s pretty much a fan of French toast sticks. Lunch is also easy because all I’ll want is a sandwich; if they don’t want it too bad! Nine months without lunch meat is almost as bad as nine months without wine, but that I can handle the latter a little easier.

Thank goodness that it’s almost winter. Clothes and like have been sprinkled in the mix over these past couple months, but I really plan to stock up on more things in January during those lovely midwinter sales. Long sleeve onesies, pants, and more. That also includes a few more blankets and towels to add to the collection.

Furniture, diapers, and bottles are on reserve. We’ll probably get a new mattress for the crib, clean it out, and raise the height. I was looking into bassinets, but I didn’t find anything too appealing via Amazon, Target, or Walmart. If you have any suggestions, please share in the comments.

I’m probably missing a few things, but don’t worry I’ll make a list in the coming weeks to make sure everything’s accounted for.

-Jay