Ours forever, Alice

On a recent episode of Family Therapy with Dr. Jenn (yes I love this show, sue me!) they discussed family secrets. When it was Damon Dash’s turn to share, he discussed the hurt he went through losing Aaliyah and his mother, but never actually giving himself time to grieve or mourn their losses. This triggered me because every year around this time I find myself sitting through sadness myself.

Alice Roberta Artison went missing in  2004. She was my grandmother and I will never forget hearing the news that nobody knew where grandmom was, the searching that went on for years, and finding out they located what they believed were her remains. At the time, I was young and did not know anything about Alzheimer’s, but now looking back it makes sense.

Alzheimer’s is a form of memory loss and there is no way to stop it. According to Alzheimer’s Association:

Alzheimer’s is the most common form of dementia, a general term for memory loss and other intellectual abilities serious enough to interfere with daily life. Alzheimer’s disease accounts for 60 to 80 percent of dementia cases.

There is a pain like no other when you lose someone you love, but when you lose them to a disease like this it makes it even harder. I get why Dash did not properly grieve because it feels like it hurts even more to keep reliving it, you wonder if you could have done something to prevent it, and hope that the pain will go away.

Unfortunately I don’t know exactly what happened to my grandmother and never will. I just wish I could have told her goodbye and gave her one last squeeze. Please, if someone you know is showing signs of memory loss go the Alzheimer’s Association website for more information. http://m.alz.org/what-is-alzheimers.asp

I love you forever.

One thought on “Ours forever, Alice

  1. Jamie . Your grandmother loved you tremendously and lives on in your heart mind body and spirit because you are a part of her . I empathize with your pain and I continue to pray that our GOD will continue to heal you of all of your hurts . Just as I had you to keep going in spite of a grief that debated me , you have your beautiful husband and children to help keep you grounded and moving forward. ! GOD knows what HE is doing !!! Keep the faith !!! Happy Birthday in Heaven mom ! Your aunt Marsha and I were saying prayers for all on this day of reflection . And yes we continue to pray for those afflicted with Alzheimer’s , Dementia,and so many other conditions we are still learning about. Love you. Thank you for sharing your life’s lessons. Your no 1 fan . SMA aka Nana Sue


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