Hey, mama

You did it!

It took a lot of work, but you made it through your pregnancy like a champ. Weather it was nine months or six months, you still had sometime where your body didn’t belong to you and that’s okay. Babies have a way of changing the lives of everyone around them.

From the doctors appointments, to the sleepless nights, and everything in between– it was all worth it. The miracle of birth is one that many don’t get to experience and it is one that you will never forget. So take this time to enjoy your new baby, adjust to your new life, and take care of you! The most important thing you can do for your baby is to be healthy.

Healthy tips:

  1. Drink lots of water. Breastfeeding or not, your body is going through many changes right now (on the inside and out). Your hormones are all over the place, your uterus is trying to get it together, and even your skin doesn’t know what to do with itself. Just when you think you have had enough, drink some more!
  2. Sleep when baby sleeps. I know it sounds funny, but one thing about newborns is that they are very unpredictable. Just when you think you have them figured out they throw you a curve ball. So get your rest while you can.
  3. Go for a walk. Not one of those brisk power walks where you burn hundreds of calories, but a walk around the block will do. It will help you not feel so cooped up, give you and baby some fresh air, and it will help you body heal.
  4. Eat your veggies! If you were like me at the beginning of this pregnancy, I avoided vegetables like they were the plague (which was unordinary for me because I do love vegetables). Now is when you (and your bowels) need them the most!

5. Ask for help. As you’re still healing and getting to know your new baby, don’t be shy to ask for help. There will be some days you can’t make it out of bed or really want to get up to do a load of laundry. Take your friends and family up on their offers.

Enjoy these next couple months before you blink and they fly by.


Water transforms. 

As I dig through the archive of photos stored on my phone, I notice something quite amazing: I don’t have the face that I used to have. I got a face transplant! Okay…you called my bluff. My face hasn’t been transplanted, but transformed and I owe this difference to my “new” face routine. 

A routine is something that is done consistently. I would say that I have followed this routine at least 5 days out of the week for over 6 months, so I’m pretty consistent. The difference that I can see is subtle, but awesome. 

I’ve been told that I have pretty normal skin (by makeup professionals). I’m not quite sold on this statement, but I have noticed that I don’t need to focus my battle on too many pimples. My new fight is with black heads and occasional breaks outs (yay). 

Here’s what I do: 

In the morning my routine is very minimal. I cleanse my face with warm water, pop in my contacts, and then moisturize it with Neutrogena Naturals. That’s it! My time is precious and the morning and once I read an article about the benefits of water only in the morning I knew that I had to give it a try. 

At night I cleanse my face with Neutrogena Naturals Purifying Face Cleanser and don’t moisturize. I tried using their Nourishing Night Cream for awhile, but it was too much for my face. I noticed my face was oily and I was having frequent breakouts so it had to go. 

I plan on sticking with this routine because my complexion has improved overall: more even color and better elasticity. It’s also affordable (click the links for pricing) and easy to follow.

Note: I also do not put a rag to my face to wash it or dry my face off with a towel. 

Cheers to water, 

Jay 🖖🏾




Next week marks an important milestone in my son’s life, he’ll be turning 4 months old! I really can not believe how fast time has gone by, but with the passing of time comes many new developments. One of those will include the introduction to fumula and food. 

I know what you’re thinking….Why are you stopping at only four months? Well let me break it down for you. When I decided to breastfeed my baby, the goal I set for myself was at least 4 months, 6 months if possible. I met my goal so I am very satisfied that I was able to nourish my baby from the breast for that long because I only lasted a few weeks with my daughter.

If you read my previous post about FMLA I discussed how I was going back to work which plays a major role in breastfeeding. Yes, I was able to use the hour designated for my lunch to pump and took an additional break, but it was stressful worrying about if I was going to produce enough milk for him, when I would be able to get out the classroom to pump, and it was especially hard dedicating those times to just pumping and not seeing him. 

This also had an effect at home because I mostly fed him directly or pumped bottles if I needed a mini break (it was hard to get a real break because he ate nonstop!). In the middle of the night I was feeding, at the break of dawn, and before bed. It felt really overwhelming, to say the least. My husband assisted as much as he could, but the fear of my supply decreasing by bottle use scared me!

So I have decided to give my son formula to supplement my breast milk. What’s wrong with having another source of nurishment for your child? I am well aware of the plethora of benefits that breastfeeding has for baby, but it also takes a lot of time, dedication, and employer support to successfully do so. 

To me, breastfeeding is a special time for baby and Mommy to interact. If that time is interrupted or constrained it makes the process that much harder. I hope that you will be able to breastfeed for as long as possible, it’s a really beautiful thing and the healthiest option for your baby. 

So many moms want to breastfeed their children for longer, but can’t. The way our society and work system is set up isn’t conducive for this special time between mom and baby. Moms take off from work, leave work, or stop working all together just to be with their child(ren). Tell me how this is fair and who does it benefit? 
America, let’s do better! Moms, let’s stand united for our babies!